The woman, u/throwawayaccount4157, shared her story to the popular Reddit forum r/AmITheA******, where she earned 5,200 upvotes and 2,300 comments for her post, “[Am I the A******] for cooking mushroom pasta when my [boyfriend] doesn’t like it?”

The original poster (OP) opens by admitting that the issue is “something pretty small that’s kind of blowing up.” She says she and her boyfriend, both 30 years old, recently moved in together, and they split all the chores, including cooking—she cooks one day, he cooks the next.

However, her boyfriend hates mushrooms. Though he’s not allergic, and she says “he’ll eat it if he has to,” but otherwise avoids the ingredient whenever possible. The OP says she’s just the opposite, and one of her favorite things to eat is a chicken and mushroom pasta dish.

“I obviously don’t make it every time, but when I do my [boyfriend] usually eats a small amount or makes himself something else. He’s said he doesn’t like it so I try to make it less often,” she wrote, adding in a comment that she usually makes the dish once or twice a week.

After she made the chicken and mushroom pasta again, she says her boyfriend was “kind of mad,” and reminded her that he hates mushrooms and that she should make something else when it’s her turn to cook.

“I replied I like it, but he said I should’ve put some away before adding the mushrooms or just left plain pasta for him. I said if he has such an issue he can always make something else,” she wrote.

When pressed on why she doesn’t make one version with mushrooms for her and another for him, she said that it’d require separating the sauce base into two pans. She also added that she needs to cook the mushrooms in the sauce so the flavor comes through.

She said that when it’s her boyfriend’s turn to cook, he doesn’t make any dishes that she hates, and that he offered another compromise that she rejected.

“I’m a lot better at making pasta dishes than anything else, so it’s more comfortable for me to stick to that, but I do make other things as well. My bf is a much better cook than me and he offered to cook for us every night. But the issue with that is he wants to trade off other chores for cooking, and I don’t want to do that,” OP wrote in an additional comment.

Though food is the source of many of life’s joys, it can also be a cause of strife in households. For example, one couple living with in-laws had trouble when rising energy costs made the in-laws decide that the oven should only be used once a day—and only by the household’s worst cook. In another story, a woman’s daughter decided her father’s new wife made better food, but when she complained, she was told to cook her own. One man was called a “toddler” for making his mother cook for him every day and rejecting anything his wife cooked.

Dianne Grande, Ph.D. spoke to Newsweek about the situation, urging that the OP find a compromise that suits her.

“Never a good idea to ignore a partner’s repeated requests, whether it’s food preferences, room temperature or spending vs. saving preferences,” Grande said. “Consider being more flexible about the splitting of food prep duties. It’s generally not a good plan to expect a perfectly even splitting of home duties. Both people benefit if they are each willing to do more than their ‘fair share,’” she added.

Grande also suggested that the mushroom pasta would be best prepared once or twice a month, rather than every week.

Redditors also took the OP to task over making the mushroom dish so frequently.

“[You’re the A******] since you guys take turns cooking for one another. He is correct that there is no reason you couldn’t have put some aside for him before adding the mushrooms. That is quite easy and shows you care about your partner,” u/These-Buy-4898 wrote in the top-rated comment with over 17,200 upvotes. “I can guarantee you’d be livid if he purposely made every other meal something that he knew you hated. Do you secretly hate your [boyfriend] or are you just completely self-centered? Wow.”

“I happen to love mushrooms but THIS!!! I made chili for dinner last night, a dish that is known for a bit of spice and heat. My [mother-in-law] HATES spicy stuff. Won’t even touch the mildest of heat. So I put in all of the non-spicy [ingredients] and only half to a quarter of the cayenne and paprika etc, just enough to get a sense of the flavor and smell. About 30 minutes before dinner I scooped her out a portion into a small pot and added the rest of the spices to the main dish. What did it cost me? A moment to take her into consideration and the need to wash the small pot I put her portion in,” u/Liathnian wrote.

“My mom is sweet and always keeps tomato’s on the side for salads, and when I was a vegetarian, she would keep a portion without meat or make something simple and meatless for me. it wasn’t too difficult, and it meant/means a lot to me. I can’t understand why someone wouldn’t want to make someone they love happy,” u/beenyolk wrote.

“[You’re the A******]. I’m sorry but they’re plenty of dishes that I love and that my fiancé despise and you know how it works ? When I cook something that he don’t like, I make sure to make something apart for him that he love to eat, because it’s what you do when you love someone more than any others, you spoil them,” u/FrenchieLittleMinx wrote.

Newsweek reached out to u/throwawayaccount4157 for comment. We could not verify the details of this case.